I was taught to be a pleaser. I used to force myself to go out. I did things I didn’t want to do to make others happy with me. Most of the time I didn’t care anything about the event I went to so I had to fake smile all effing night. This led to major burnout…

Boundaries are so important I want to share with you some things to consider when deciding how to set boundaries. that has worked for me in the past.

I've been known to successfully set a few boundaries with work and my personal life. It’s important to do it in a way that is respectful and allows for communication. Let me help you.

Sometimes it’s ok to do something half-assed rather than not do it at all…I know that contradicts a lot of what “the experts” tell you. For most of the world, if a task is worth doing, you should do it to the best of your ability.

But what about when you are depressed and can barely function?

Lately, my motto has been “Get your clean underwear out of the F’n dryer and go on about your day!”

Are you a creature of habit or healing?

When you are out of sorts, what do you need- nourishment or comfort?

Nourishment provides comfort. When you are in an altered state of being (grief, sadness, stressed out, etc.), you want comfort. You want your comfy clothes, a pile of greasy fries or mashed potatoes with mac-n-cheese, and mind-numbing TV shows. What you need though is nourishment. 

How many times are you frustrated and just go buy something new rather than search through the crowded, junky spaces for it?

Guilty here!

So, clean your small spaces and make them more useful. This non-clutter makes it easier for you to find what you need and your stress level will be lots lower when you open the closet and nothing falls out.

I’m not sure if it’s just the point in my life right now or if it was 2020...but either way, I’ve been fighting burnout for a bit.

What about you? Are you sitting there in your PJs for the third day in a row, wishing you bought two gallons of milk for all the cereal you have been eating? I mean, cereal is the breakfast of champs, so why not have it for all three meals?

If this sounds familiar, then you are probably experiencing some burnout or overwhelm.

I’m not sure if it’s just the point in my life right now or if it was 2020...but either way, I’ve been fighting burnout for a bit.

What about you? Are you sitting there in your PJs for the third day in a row, wishing you bought two gallons of milk for all the cereal you have been eating? I mean, cereal is the breakfast of champs, so why not have it for all three meals?

If this sounds familiar, then you are probably experiencing some burnout or overwhelm.

You see it coming (sometimes) and it's hard to stop the weeks, months, or years of events that got you to this point. Do you really want to get on the bullet train where things blur past and you can’t see what is happening around you?

How does it happen and what did I do about it? Better yet, what could I have done to slow down, stop, or hopefully avoid it happening?

If I took a half-day or heaven forbid, a WHOLE day to myself to do nothing...I had major guilt. The kind of guilt that pushed me into hyperdrive the next day or two to “make up” for being sooooo lazy. 

Most of all, I wanted to stay busy, TAKE CONTROL, and plan it ALLLLLLL down to the last detail! All those feelings made me like a voracious contestant that had three pots of coffee before stepping into a twisted productivity game show where winning meant checking off everything on your to-do list and your 10 closest friends.

We have SOOOO many distractions today and so many commitments that we take on as we feel obligated to in order to achieve success. Living this way creates a constant state of excitement that doesn’t allow for downtime without guilt. Staying busy all the time creates mental burnout.