We live in an age where kids get Participation Trophies for everything. For a long time, I hated that tradition. But, dare I say it? I can see the value (now) in recognizing the strength and hard work that person put into something. Especially when things didn’t work out like they hoped, or dreamed they would.  I'll show you how to celebrate yourself.

I invite you to look deep into your soul and ask yourself the following.

What am I putting first in my life that really would serve better as a sacrifice?

Is there something rational thoughts tell me is not working for me?

Why am I forcing myself to keep putting that thing first when I know love is better for my life?

If we have no boundaries, it’s like the wild west up in our lives. It isn’t as cool as it sounds, trust me!

It’s not like Tombstone where the lawless people coming into our lives are taken care of by a group of attractive men with good hearts, quick hands, and good aim. In real life, we have to be our own saviors. 

You can’t avoid judgment so how do you deal with it? How do you keep showing up and living the life you long for? Click here to learn more.

When we love ourselves and our lives, it’s easier for others to love us. Not only do we feel more confident and secure, but it also shows in how we carry ourselves.

Self-love keeps us from feeling super needy and dependent on others. Check out these tips.

This workshop provided us with knowledge, techniques, and time to reflect on how trauma has impacted our journey in life. We were encouraged to think about how we interact with others (family, friends, clients, students, etc) that might have trauma we don’t know about. (Pretty much everyone has it even if they haven’t come to terms with it.) Diane walked us through ways to get back to a regulated state and move away from a deregulated state. 

Hey girl!! Ummmm....do you need a shower?

I’m not talking about the kind where you clean your body...the kind where you clean and renew your soul! I heard someone say the other day “there’s nothing like a good shower cry.” All the women were like OMG YES!!!! That is the best! They were right...there’s no better place to cry your heart out than in the shower!

Hey girl!! Ummmm....do you need a shower?

I’m not talking about the kind where you clean your body...the kind where you clean and renew your soul! I heard someone say the other day “there’s nothing like a good shower cry.” All the women were like OMG YES!!!! That is the best! They were right...there’s no better place to cry your heart out than in the shower!

Merriam Webster has many definitions for this popular “L” word. The one that is most closely associated with the majority of the “acceptable societal view” is the definition of love as a strong affection for another- to hold dear.

Almost all of the definitions refer to this feeling about another person or to be on the receiving end of this feeling from another. I wonder why there is not a definition that includes affection for oneself.

What does it mean to trust your gut?

You know when you get the knot in your gut about a decision and later you regret that decision? That is your body, your intuition telling you NOT to do what you are about to do.

Why does this happen? It is your inner guide, your higher power, God, the universe...whatever you want to call it, it is telling you to PAY ATTENTION!

Women tend to put others and their happiness ahead of their own. This has been taught to us as children by our parents, who were taught that by their parents, and their parents’ parents. Just because that is how it has been done in the past does not mean we have to perpetuate the cycle of self-abuse.

So how do we break the cycle and start loving ourselves in the way that we will reap the benefits?

What is self-judgment? This is when you have thoughts about yourself or your actions that cause emotions that negatively affect you. Typically you will start feeling anxious, depressed, or even get angry at yourself for thinking or doing something. Many times negative self-talk accompanies these thoughts as they are like two peas in a pod.