So many times this is because we’re hiding our lack of control in another area and we are desperately trying to throw the “not good enough” scent off of us. And, we might not even know what is really going on. We are just surviving.

I’ve been maintaining this thing called life for a while. Why?

The easy answer is “Because I’m good at it.”

Most women are. From a young age maintaining is a goal we are taught to aim at. Especially those that have parents pushing their sweet young children into the American Dream that sometimes feels like a nightmare.

How to be Honest- One of the biggest faults I see in people that they don’t want to admit is they are not honest. That doesn’t mean we flat out lie, we just downplay our response. Maybe that’s because we think others will judge us so we tell people things aren’t that important to us when they really are.

Have you paid attention to the attitudes of those around you over the last few years? 

A lot of people have attitudes oozing with entitlement and resentfulness.

It is due to a combination of fear and poor self-image.

Combine these two things and you have a recipe for a toxic person.

There are many reasons why I think insecurity keeps us playing small as women. We let others impact what we do out of fear and judgment, leaving us in a place where we don't know what we're worth and we settle when we think we have found security.

Over the last decade, I have really dug into who I am, what I want, and how I feel about myself. Especially in the imperfectly perfect skin I’m in. Two divorces and two kids will absolutely make you rethink everything you thought you knew! For some of us, it happens sooner than others, but for me, that’s how long it took.

The year 2021 dealt me some blows. Hard shake you to the core blows. I have been lucky enough to know the above regimen well enough to know how impactful it is. In my dark time, I started with the first item.

Pay attention to how you feel after certain activities.