Do you wonder why others can see our situation so much clearer than we see it? It’s all about honesty and vulnerability. 

You might be wondering how you can be more honest and vulnerable with someone else than you are with yourself...it’s easier than you think!!!

It works like this.

In one conversation you say something hard and true about your life. In another conversation, you say something ELSE hard and true about your life. So, in conversations 10-110, your friends piece together something you KNOW but aren’t willing to admit. This is especially true with abuse as we are often too ashamed to admit it...even when we give all the details to our friends then refuse to label it for what it is. 

After the next mention of this raging that included screaming and yelling...her trees are enjoying all that extra carbon dioxide I bet!!...I started thinking about what was really happening. 

My friend - we’ll call her Rosie the Rager - is not the typical loud southern woman and I don’t know that I’ve ever seen or heard her really raise her voice.

I thought she was seeing herself going into the abyss of a place you can’t mentally recover from based on the very descriptive writing of these rage sessions...God how I love her very vivid descriptions!!! This felt serious. Different than the other amusing descriptions of her life and things she was going through.

As I was waiting to get my Covid vaccine, I got another message from Rosie the Rager about how she thought she was yelling off her weight (if this is true, Imma start yelling ASAP and get that last 20 off!!). She didn’t know why this was happening or where this was coming from. I could feel the chaos of feelings radiating from the phone. 

I decided to respond with the first thing that popped into my head. I typed: 

“So...oddly enough I have a theory that might be out there BUT also could be right on point! 🤷🏼‍♀️ Your throat chakra might be trying to heal itself.” 

My sweet friend was pushed into silence and submission for SO long that now the path to healing requires action.

Sometimes it’s SO obvious what is happening but because we have not allowed ourselves to put that label on what has happened, have not allowed ourselves to clean the green haze of pollen off our glasses to SEE what is right there, or have not been exposed to the information needed to heal ourself, we suffer in silence....or in Rosie the Rager’s case, the lack of silence as she was finding her voice. 

While I want to take on the moniker of “Gifted AF” and add that to my signature going forward, I have to say it’s all education and intuition. I have spent years learning, listening to myself and others to collect the nuggets of wisdom like a greedy squirrel preparing for winter. My intuition tells me when to regurgitate what I have learned and how it applies to those I hope to help heal. 

Can you allow yourself to come to terms with what has happened to you in the past?

When unusual feelings and emotions come up, how do you work through them? 

Peace and love,

Teresea

Photo credits: Unsplash and Lee Wright